WEAR SUNSCREEN

 You are not as fat as you think" 

Body image issues are all too common in our society .If you are self conscious about your weight let it be because you want to change and not because society has bullied you into hating your extra weight . Its your skin you have to live it in make sure that you are in love with every inch of it but just like you can modify your car ,your phone or your house to make yourself more comfortable its OK to do so with your body.

Do not read beauty magazine they will only make u feel ugly.

Learn to take compliments and forget the insults 
It will take a lot of experience with self doubt and criticism from others to finally arrive at the conclusion that the opinion of others are just that, their opinions . 98% of the time the negative things that a person has to say is just a reflection of their own reality  that you don't need to be a part of . People will always have something to say its OK to ignore them . When u figure out how let me know. 

FLOSS

Maybe you'll marry maybe you won't.... 
Always remember that your parents,your aunt, your boss, your pastor all had their chance to live their lives and they did so based on what their heart desired therefore don't let anybody make decisions about your life . Tell your grand aunt at the family reunion that you won't have kids or your mom that you don't want to marry yet . Also love isn't a once in a life time opportunity  love comes and goes and if you live the life you want you will always find it . Or Not whatever floats your boat . 

STRETCH

Drink water , why do people hate drinking water so much? Its bland, its tasteless,  it makes you pee too much horse dead and cow fat. At the end of the day you aren't feeding soda and juice to your plants and pets so why should you be drinking them? 


Take naps , if you are one of those "I can't sleep in the day time" people then that's fine but if not and you find it difficult to pull an all dayer then nap , in your car , at your desk, in the lounge  or on the weekends . Why do you think babies are so happy all the time? 

Do yoga . Trust me yoga is NOT 'just' stretching . The feeling that comes with working towards  your balance and finding it  must be nice (for those who have found it)  but the journey to that place is not only physically beneficial but it is most enlightening. Don't knock it till you try it , who knows it might jist be the answer you were looking for. 

Travel . Go somewhere ; next door, next parish, small islands,  big continents . Doesn't matter where just GO!!! I bet you'll love it !!!

inspiration: https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=sTJ7AzBIJoI

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MY BUSINESS, YOUR BUSINESS OR OUR BUSINESS?

I grew up in a Jamaica where cars would stop to allow children and elderly persons to cross the road , where when a man slaps a school girl in her face at a bus stop  men came from every where (even jumping out of bus windows) to help her, a Jamaica where you are sure that if somebody tried to break into your house at LEAST one neighbor would see. I can remember all the stand up comedians saying that if TWO Jamaicans were on the plan the 9/11 crash wouldn't have happened . But it is with great sorrow that I am now able to say that Jamaica is no more . 

The changes came about for many reasons ; people began to resent the watchful eyes of the old lady next door or find it tiresome to socialize with neighbors . We began to hide in supermarket isles to avoid saying hello to an old classmate and no longer found it necessary to smile with and greet a passing stranger. In some cases it got dangerous to stop and help a 'stranded' person on the roadside and 9 times out of 10 this old man isn't needy its just a scam.

But what we didn't realize is in an effort to protect our privacy and even though we have to think of our safety we were killing our sense of community.  We have created a society of detached , "I'm not getting involved"  onlookers and for me I'm terrified of living in a society like that. 

When did we stop caring about our children to the point where an anonymous phone call that can save a child's life has become tedious? When did we become the people who stand aside and watch a child be murdered? People are getting attacked in public areas and while there are several videos of the incident there is no attempts at helping.


I know we all have a drive to preserve ourselves and the bystander effect is very real but at the same time we have to consider that if it were u being attacked you would want somebody to intervene,  you would want somebody to assist your child if they were in danger . And i cant help but think that criminals have become so bold because they know they no longer have to worry about the victim getting help , its as easy as if they did it on a lonely street late at night.  We cannot become so consumed with self that we lose our humanity.  

We need to look out for each other! Every little effort made to heal our broken sense of community is beneficial.  We can start by simply  relearning the lost art  of giving old people and pregnant ladies a seat on the bus. We can start by being kind $20 will not change your life but you can help somebody get closer to what might be their only meal of the day.  I am aware that some situations might be too dangerous for you to physically intervene but at least raise an alarm , call the police ,by all means be safe but be helpful. 

And so what if miss Marva knows your business when you can depend on her to start putting out the fire when you accidentally left the iron plugged in.